This Wasn’t Part of the Plan

5 thoughts on “This Wasn’t Part of the Plan”

  1. Glad U survived the car accident otherwise U wouldn’t be around to tell the story! It sounded horrific! It’s a miracle U made it out alive!

    I disagree with your comment that stripping isn’t a job. It’s totally a J-O-B! Don’t let the party vibe of a strip club confuse you into thinking that this is all a game for the women who masquerade in their underwear performing the part of a sexually available female companion. A woman isn’t going to make $$ if she makes the business transaction a cold exchange. She’s got to sugar coat it so the men understand that tipping is a requirement for her attention. This is where fantasy is critical.

    Why do you go to the club if it’s not to earn a living? Maybe you’re an exhibitionist, or get off on grinding on men old enough to be your dad or grandfather– I’m not sure. But for most of us, it’s because we get paid for what we do–our labor & services. Also, strip clubs do have set hours & schedules. There’s discreet times when they open & close. When the day or night shifts are. If there’s featured entertainers, whether that’s a weekly porno star or a house girl on stage, there’s a schedule. The clubs are supposed to issue women W2s because they’re actually employees. But most clubs will misclassify women as independent contractors to avoid paying employer taxes & minimum wages. Most don’t even issue 1099s that true freelancers and independent contractors get. I think the IRS would be far more interested in what the clubs are not paying cause it’s labor & tax fraud that the clubs are engaging in.

    I can see how the lesbian bar go-go dance gig might seen more like fun–but that’s still a job. It probably doesn’t pay as well as the strip club because women don’t have the expendible cash that men do. Also, men are more conditioned to pay for female companionship. Women won’t. When I stripped at lesbian clubs, it was just tips from on stage; no lapdances. Imagine if you were at the strip club & only got stage tips but nothing else. There’d be little incentive to return to work another shift. Stripping for women is fun but definitely more like “performance art.” But you can’t really pay your rent from a job like that.

    Plz check out my upcoming documentary LICENSE TO PIMP ( . It’s about strippers & the choices they make when their workplaces engage in illegal labor practices that violate their rights & endangers their safety. Subscribe to the blog about current conditions in the stripping & sex industry (


    1. Hi Surina Strippr, so glad to hear your opinion on the topic and we’ll agree to disagree on some things. I, too, went through a period of trying to unionize fellow exotic entertainers in the workplace and it’s a very good idea. Unfortunately, most dancers in the industry (not all, but most) are not committed enough to follow through with everything required to be an employee of a strip club. Imagine the revolt on your hands once taxes start coming out of their nightly tips…it’ll be a lot more than the house fees. You and I see the justification in such an action, but most of them won’t. And yes, what the clubs are doing is illegal. I completely agree 100%. With classifying dancers as independent contractors, they slip through the tax cracks but still get away with requiring a certain number of shifts per girl along with a set number of hours, which is illegal. They can’t have it both ways. Yet they do. To top it all off, the IRS is going after dancers for back taxes. They know there is some money to gain from them. I have a few friends who still perform and they’ve started receiving notices from years prior. The IRS has the authority to do this, of course, however shouldn’t they also step up and regulate the club as well?

      I worked in this industry for over ten years as first a dancer, and eventually a manager. I was a professional ballet dancer for several years prior to that, graduating from one of the highest ranked universities in the country. I understand the game just as much as you. Maybe even more…I don’t regret my choices at all. I’m sharing my story, what was going through my mind, my feelings and my struggles. I’m not trying to grandstand or make political statements…just my experiences from the only point of view I can. Mine. I think you may have misconstrued my message regarding working in a lesbian bar…it wasn’t just about the money. It was about keeping my focus on other things I wanted to accomplish and making sure the money, the party atmosphere, didn’t divert me. As of right now, feel free to see stripping as a job. I’ve read about your documentary, seen others years ago and still support the concept. I sincerely appreciate the comments, keep them coming and good luck with your documentary.


      1. I have to say I agree with Stripper-X on this one, but I guess it really comes down to your definition of a job. In my opinion you could have a “job” even if you are not being paid. I am a stay at home mom and I consider it my “job” to raise my kids… I am also a business owner. I was a stripper in my 20s and I have to say stripping was alot like owning my business… no set work schedule…. no paycheck… no guaranteed income… pay to work…. etc. all can be classified as “jobs.” Most people, however wouldn’t really consider owning a business as a “job” though. It seems that a “job” has to have a schedule and a paycheck in most peoples minds, or one must be “employed” before one can actually have a “job.” Needless to say, whether it be stripping, owning a business, parenting, answering phones, filing papers, washing dishes etc… it is all work. lol great story stripper-X and nice post Surina.


      2. Well put, Foxxxy…I guess for me, it boils down to accountability. So many strippers are not accountable for their actions on the job. They may get reprimanded every so often or even fired, but they usually get their job back within the week. It’s such a strange world – hard to define one way or the other…


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